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The Invisible Bully: Part 3

Part 3: Dealing With It A Sikh’s guide to dealing with subtle oppression experienced in elementary school to adulthood This post the last part of a three-part series exploring subtle bullying called micro-aggressions. Part 1: Introduction & Types of Micro-aggressions Part 2: The Bully & the Victim Part 3: Dealing With It In part one of this series,…

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The Invisible Bully: Part 2

Micro-Aggressions: The Invisible Bully A Sikh’s guide to dealing with subtle oppression experienced in elementary school to adulthood Part 2: The Bully & The Victim This post is part two of a three-part series exploring subtle bullying called micro-aggressions. Part 1: Introduction & Types of Micro-aggressions Part 2: The Bully & The Victim Part 3:…

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The Invisible Bully: Part 1

Micro-Aggressions: The Invisible Bully Part 1: Introduction & Types of Micro-aggressions A Sikh’s guide to dealing with subtle oppression experienced in elementary school to adulthood This is the first post of a three-part series exploring subtle bullying called micro-aggressions. Part 1: Introduction & Types of Micro-aggressions Part 2: The Bully & The Victim Part 3: Dealing…

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Things Long Haired Kaurs Have to Face

This is just for fun. We all love our long, beautiful locks and understand what a precious gift it is from Waheguru. But sometimes…it can get a little frustrating… 1. You are constantly losing hair things and finding them in the strangest places.   . 2. You have a favorite comb and freak out when…

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Why Kesh?!

  Why do Sikhs keep long, un-cut hair? Seriously, give me a good reason! What’s the point of my kesh? Kesh, or uncut hair, is considered to be an essential part of Sikhi. Yet, no one has given me a convincing answer as to why it is essential or why the Gurus commanded Sikhs to keep long hair. Throughout…

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The Ideal Sikh Man, Destroyed

How Mainstream Culture Destroys the “Ideal Sikh Man” Throughout my blog, I’ve written a lot about how American and Indian cultures can make it difficult for a woman to be a strong Sikh and follow the Khalsa path, but I haven’t yet addressed the challenges these cultures present to Singhs. I’m not referring to the beard or the turban.…

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Survey: Kaurs who Wear Dastars

Last but not least, I present you the survey results of 41 Kaurs who wear dastars and an insight into their experiences. All the graphs represent percentage of respondents, except for age, which is number of respondents. To make the graphs larger, click on them. As the survey was anonymous, please note that the photos…

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Survey: Singhs on Kaurs & Dastars

Here’s part two! 73 Singhs completed a survey on their thoughts on the idea of Kaurs wearing dastars. Here are the results! All numbers are percentage of respondents . If graphs or responses are too small, click on them to make them bigger. 1. Should Kaurs Wear Dastars? 2. What do you think of Kaurs…

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Survey: Kaurs & Dastars

The results are in! I conducted a survey to see what Kaurs who do not wear dastars think of the idea of Kaurs wearing dastars….just to get an insight on what folks are thinking. Here are the results! The numbers in each graph represent the number of responses. 107 Kaurs participated in this survey. The…

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Part 2: The Turban Across the Globe

 Across the Globe: The Secular Turban My next step in understanding the role and historical significance of the Sikh turban, was to see which other cultures around the world wear turbans, in a non-religious sense. (If you want, you can read Part 1: Secular History the Turban here.) Middle East In many parts of the Middle…

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Part 1: The Turban Across Time

  The Secular Turban Over Time I truly want to understand the history and place of the turban in Sikhi. Unfortunately, I haven’t been told a satisfactory answer. So, I’m going to explore the topic a little further in hopes of getting beyond superficial rhetoric. My journey starts with tracing the secular path of the…

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Should Kaurs Wear Turbans?

What do YOU think about Kaurs wearing Dastars? The question about Kaurs wearing dastars seems to be a hot topic of discussion at Sikh camps and retreats. I have my own thoughts on the subject, but I’ve always wondered what others think about it. So, I’m conducting a survey. Don’t worry it’s anonymous! I would be…

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Makeup! Bad?

Should Sikh women wear makeup? Makeup: Many women won’t leave their home without wearing it.  Others never put on the slightest amount.  It is the center of fights between teenager girls and their parents.  The question I explore today is, “Is it okay for Sikh women to wear makeup? or Is it wrong for Sikh…

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Inspire Me

Inspire: The drawing of air into the lungs. From Old French inspiration, from Late Latin inspirationem, from Latin inspiratus. ɪnspɨˈɹeɪʃən The work of these women breath life into me. They inspire me. Enjoy. I LOVE this song! It gives me the chills. This video  tells the true story of Shameem Pathan, who courageously broke out…

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Is My Skirt Too Short?

Does a long, shapeless dress make you “more of a Sikh”? Does a plunging neckline make you “less of a Sikh”? What about a short skirt? Tank top? Bikini? This is a topic of many Sikh camp girls’ cabin discussions. Parents and daughters argue about what she is allowed to wear to school, the beach,…

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Part 2: Why do women shave?

Part 2: Why do women shave? Apart from the massive marketing camping to persuade women to shave, as mentioned in Part 1 A History of Shaving, there are a few other reasons women might choose to shave. Coupled with advertising, peer pressure often forces women into shaving. Dr Tony Carr, head of clinical psychology at the University…

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Part 3: Why Do Some Women NOT Shave?

Part 3: Why Do Some Women NOT Shave? There are many reasons a woman may chose not to shave. I have highlighted a few non-religious reasons that women cite as their reasoning behind not shaving. 1. It Saves Money! According to one study, shaving your legs 156 days out of the year costs an average of $250 per…

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Part 4: Shaving & Sikhi

Part 4: Shaving & Sikhi Double standards: I am disappointed that there is more pressure for Singhs not to shave and keep beards but it doesn’t matter if a Kaur shaves her legs. I met a Sikh family which had a teenage son and daughter. The parents praised their son for his turban and beard but scolded…

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Part 5: Razor Free Inspiration

Part 5: Razor Free Inspiration I know some Kaurs don’t feel comfortable exposing their legs or arms in fear of ridicule. I felt like I was the only girl in the US who didn’t shave when I was growing up. Only recently have a I found out that there are many women, Kaurs and other…

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Part 6: Hairy Celebrities

Part 6: Hairy Celebrities Believe it or not, even celebrities go au-natural. Sometimes it’s cool to see that even though they are in the spotlight all the time, constantly have photos taken, and need to dress up for events…that even they have the strength to go against the grain. See Kaurs! We’re not alone! We should be…

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Part 7: Revisiting Shaving Questions

Part 7: Revisiting Shaving Questions In Part 2 I listed some common reasons as to why Sikh girls choose to shave. I thought I would come back to them and try to give my opinions regarding each point.  Sikh girls! Why do you shave? 1. It’s gross not to:  We have been socially conditioned to…

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Part 8: Shaving & Body Image

Femininity and Domination by Sandra Bartky In her book Femininity and Domination, Sandra Bartky uses Marx’s theory of alienation to explain the objectification that results from women’s preoccupation with their appearance. A feature of Marx’s theory of alienation is thefragmentation of the human person, this ‘splintering of human nature into a number of misbegotten parts’.  Bartky believes that…

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Part 9: Final Words on Shaving

Part 9: Final Words on Shaving I want to make it clear that I am not hating on women who shave. I am just providing an alternative viewpoint for Kaurs to hear. There is so much media promoting shaving that I wanted to push back a little bit. To shave or not to shave is…